January 29, 2010
- Is it stealing?
Dear Mrs. Figgins:
My 4 years old son and was caught stealing for the 3rd time. He says he was “borrowing”.
We live in a small town and know most of the merchants. In every case the owners have been very kind and have tried to make my husband and me feel better.
We have been very grateful for their kindness.
I admit it concerns us, not just for our family but for other parents.
These things should not be taken lightly. I know because my brother was a cute little boy who everybody gave a pass to throughout the years. Today he’s in prison.
Please print this letter. I hope this is a shout across the bows to parents.
Concerned Parent
Dear Concerned:
Here is your letter.
Not surpising, with examples like your brother, your mind may go to “today it may be a toy, but tomorrow it may be much more serious”.
However, children under the age of five do not generally have a handle on the concept of ownership, and there is a fine line as to their ability to fully comprehend that an item belongs to someone else and should not be taken.
Parents should be very aware of patterns as children get older. A child may steal out of a “need” or the need for attention.
If this pattern continues, early help is important.
Don’t let your worries get the best of you at this point.
Mrs. Figgins
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