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Respect yourself.

 

Dear Mrs.Figgins:

I have a big problem.  Me.

I met a girl online who is beautiful and smart.  She sent me photos of herself, but I’ve not sent her any of me.

While OK on paper, I’m not so desirable in person.

I am overweight, shy and not much of a conversationalist.  Although I graduated from a great college, I’m not very interesting.  Definitely, not the kind of guy girls go for.

I’m afraid to meet this girl.

What can I do to get my nerve up?

Uncertain James

 

Dear James:  

Answers don’t always have to complicated and convoluted.  

The main problem you have isn’t your nerves.   It’s  your lack of self respect.   You don’t like yourself.

What’s the worst that can happen by meeting this girl?  Nothing.  And what’s so bad about that?  Nothing. 

You already have much more than most people.  You have a good education.

Do you really want to change how your personal life is going?  Begin the change right now.  Do it for YOU.

The single most off putting thing you can do is to put yourself down.  So, STOP.

My advice?  Follow these simple rules every day.

• Count your blessings.  

• Exercise. 

• Eat Right.

• Care about your appearance (top to bottom)

• Be a gentleman.

• Do something good for someone less fortunate.

• Treat yourself with respect.

• Conduct your life with the highest integrity.  It will enhance all your other values.

PS:  It’s OK be shy.  Girls find it charming. 

Mrs. Figgins

 

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